John Salkowski: Success is Your Own Fault and I’ll Prove It

John Salkowski: Success is Your Own Fault and I’ll Prove It

success-coaching-headerYour most important determinant of success & happiness is your attitude & like any tough decision you make, it’s a series of split second choices ~ John Salkowski

Happy vs. Unhappy? Successful vs. Unsuccessful?

Where do these two types of people come from? How do they choose to live their lives? Your happiness and success is no one’s fault but your own. We wake up with choices every day. We are where we are today because of the choices and decisions we make. Contrary to popular belief, happiness doesn’t come from fame, fortune, other people, or material possessions. It comes from within us. The wealthiest person in the world could hate their life while a person living on the streets downtown could be happy and content. I have studied both groups and have seen it firsthand. Happy people are happy because they make themselves happy. They maintain a positive outlook on life and remain at peace with themselves.

Success is Your Fault and I’ll prove it

It’s really simple. Happy, successful people have good habits that enhance their lives. They do things differently. Below are the top things happy, successful people do differently.

1. Accept it.

Life isn’t fair so just accept it. You’ll be more at peace with yourself if you just accept that fact. Focus on what you can control and change it for the better. Stop wasting your time on things you can’t control.

2. Treat people with kindness, love, dignity & respect.

It has been scientifically proven that being kind makes you happier. Every time you perform a selfless act, your brain produces serotonin, a hormone that eases tension and lifts your spirits. Not only that, by treating people with love, dignity, and respect also allows you to build stronger relationships.

3. See problems as challenges.

The word “problem” is never part of a happy, successful person’s vocabulary. A problem is viewed as a setback, a struggle, or an unstable situation while a challenge is viewed as something positive like an opportunity. Whenever you face a hurdle, try looking at it as a challenge.

4. Express gratitude for what they already have.

Be happy for what you have, not for what you don’t have. You’ll have a deeper sense of contentment if you count your blessings instead of yearning for what you don’t have.

5. Dream BIG.

People who get into the habit of dreaming big are more likely to accomplish their goals than those who don’t. If you dare to dream big, your mind will put itself in a focused and positive state.

6. Don’t sweat the small stuff.

Happy people ask themselves, “Will this problem matter a year from now?” They understand that life’s too short to get worked up over trivial situations. Letting things roll off your back will definitely put you at ease to enjoy the more important things in life.

7. Speak well of others.

Don’t talk about someone behind their back and be nice to their face. If you don’t like someone, avoid them or avoid the conversation. Don’t say anything if you have nothing nice to say.

8. Never make excuses.

It was once said, “He that is good for making excuses is seldom good for anything else.” Happy people don’t make excuses or blame others for their own failures in life. Instead, they own up to their mistakes and, by doing so, they proactively try to change for the better.

9. Be in the moment.

Happy people don’t dwell on the past or worry about the future. They savor the present. They let themselves get immersed in whatever they’re doing at the moment. As Jim Rohn, the great philosopher once said, “Wherever you are, be there”!

10. Wake up at the same time every day.

The successful people I know tend to be early risers. Waking up at the same time every morning stabilizes your circadian rhythm, increases productivity, and puts you in a calm and centered state.

11. Avoid comparing yourself with others.

Everyone is different, so why compare you to others? If you think you’re better than someone else, you gain an unhealthy sense of superiority. If you think someone else is better than you, you end up feeling bad about yourself. You’ll be happier if you focus on your own progress and praise theirs.

12. Choose friends wisely.

You are who you associate with. That’s why it’s important to surround yourself with optimistic people who’ll encourage you to achieve more, be more and become more. The more positive energy you have around you, the better you will feel about yourself.

13. Never seek approval from others.

Happy people don’t care what others think of them. They follow their own hearts without letting naysayers discourage them. They understand that it’s impossible to please everyone. Never seek anyone’s approval but your own.

14. Meditate.

Meditating silences your mind and helps you find inner peace. Happy people know how to silence their minds anywhere and anytime they need to calm their nerves.

15. You are what you eat.

Junk food makes you sluggish, and it’s difficult to be happy when you’re in that kind of state. Everything you eat directly affects your mood, energy, and mental focus. Be sure to eat foods that will keep your mind and body in good shape.

16. Exercise.

Studies have shown that exercise raises happiness levels just as much as Zoloft (anti-depressant) does. Exercising also boosts your self-esteem and gives you a higher sense of self-accomplishment.

17. Live with-in your means.

Live simply. Reduce clutter around the house. The happiest people live in smaller homes, drive simpler cars, and own fewer items. Stop stressing over comparing yourself with the neighbor.

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